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The Fundamentals Of Good Health
There are three fundamentals you need to take care of to create health for yourself - food, activity and rest. 1. Eating Right One of the most critical aspects you must be conscious of is how quickly a specific type of food digests and becomes a part of yourself. If you eat something and it doesn't digest within three hours, it means you have eaten food that should either be avoided or reduced in quantity. If the food moves out of your stomach within three hours, it means that even if it is not the best food, it is still something your system is able to handle. If you maintain a clear gap of five to six hours between one meal and the next, without having anything in between, cleansing will take place at the cellular level. This cleansing at the cellular level is essential for a healthy life. If you are over 30 years of age, two tasty meals a day will suffice one in the morning and one in the evening. There must be a gap of three hours before you go to bed after your evening meal. If this includes at least 20 to 30 minutes of light physical activity such as simple walking your system will be healthy. If you go to bed with food still inside your stomach, a certain level of inertia in the system will be generated. Physiologically, this inertia is like acceleration towards death and death is the ultimate inertia. Another dimension is that if you go to bed with a full stomach, it puts pressure on other organs in the abdomen. This will also lead to various kinds of health issues. For this reason, too it is crucial that before you go to bed the food eaten should move out of the stomach as you sleep in different postures so you should ensure that your stomach doesn’t put pressure on your other organs at any point. 2. Use Your Body When it comes to activity, a straightforward thing you need to consider is that your body is capable of bending forward, bending backwards and twisting towards both sides. So this activity must happen in some form or the other. Classical hatha yoga is the best way to do it. Moreover, it is scientific. So if traditional hatha yoga is not yet part of your life, you must somehow make sure that every day you bend forward, backward, twist to both sides and squat so that your spinal column is stretched. This is a must on a daily basis, if you want to keep your entire system healthy particularly your neurological system, or else it will be an issue as you age. 3. Get Enough Rest But Not Too Much! Various factors determine the amount of rest a person needs. One crucial factor is the type and amount of food you consume. Experiment with different kinds of foods and check which foods make you feel heavy and which ones leave you light and agile. If you make sure that at least 40 per cent of your diet consists of fresh vegetables and fruits, there will be lightness in your body. Also what the body needs is restfulness and not necessarily sleep. Therefore it is a misunderstanding to think that sleep is the only way to rest. Even as you sit or stand you can either be in a state of restfulness, in a state of agitation, or in a state of inertia. But if you are in a lively state of restfulness every moment of your life, the volume of sleep you require will decrease. How To Live A Healthy Life The Five Sheaths Of The Body 1. In yoga, the human system is looked upon as five sheaths or layers. Every aspect of the human system including the mind, is seen as a body and yoga is a technology to transform it. These five layers of the body are called Annamaya Kosha, Manomaya Kosha, Pranamaya Kosha, Vignanamaya Kosha and Anandamaya Kosha. 2. Anna means food. And your physical body or Annamaya Kosha is the food that you have eaten small or big is your choice, but it is food, nonetheless. So as there is a physical body that you have gathered from outside, there is also a mental body. This spiritual body is known as Manomaya Kosha. If you bring the physical body, the mental body and the energy body into proper alignment and balance, you will not have any physical or psychological ailments. 3. The third layer of the body is called Pranamaya Kosha or energy body. The physical body, mental body, and energy body are all in the realm of physicality, but on different levels of subtlety. 4. The next layer of the body is a transitory body that is known as Vignanamaya Kosha. It facilitates the transition from the physical to the non-physical. It does not ascribe to any of the physical qualities, but at the same time it is not yet wholly non-physical either. 5. This layer is called Anandamaya Kosha which in English translates as ‘bliss body’. This does not mean there is a bubble of bliss in you. It is called bliss body because in our experience, whenever it is touched, we become blissful. Bliss is not its nature; bliss is what it causes.
Only A Silent Mind Can Be A Healing Mind
Crises call for action, and the COVID-19 crisis has triggered global action, much of it motivated by alarm, fear, and the dread of uncertainty. But what about the individual person who feels afraid and uncertain? I’d like to propose an answer based on the silent mind. I realize that this approach might sound a bit alien and “spiritual” in the wrong way, but building castles in the air or retreating into yourself isn’t what silent mind is about. A silent mind is about reconnecting to your source. Everyone relies on the top layer of the mind, which is active, constantly thinking and feeling. But when these feelings get fixated on anxiety, alarm, dread, and uncertainty, the active mind cannot pull itself out of its own spiral. Mental activity becomes useless to heal itself, just as a runaway car cannot apply its own brakes. What is needed is a reset. The reset isn’t just mental. Your thoughts are received by every cell in your body, and in turn, all kinds of processes are affected—the immune response, hormonal cycles, sleep, and overall mind-body balance, or homeostasis. If the active mind becomes confused and chaotic, balance is disrupted everywhere. What to do? Centuries ago, in every culture, a deeper level of mind was discovered, and the usual expression surrounding this level, which is silent, calm, and undisturbed, became religious, as in the Old Testament injunction, “Be still and know that I am God.” If we replace God with “your source,” the message comes through to modern ears: Be still and know that I am your source. The most direct result of heeding this message would be to meditate because meditation gives direct access to a silent mind. But countless modern people have tried meditation, and they do not experience the kind of reset that is needed in a crisis. Partly this is due to lack of commitment; the average person has tried meditation and left it behind or only meditates when a sort of psychological Band-Aid is needed. Let me look a bit deeper to show what has been missed, because a silent mind is truly the only healer. In medical school, homeostasis is described as basically physical. If you go for a run, your heart rate, respiration, blood flow to muscles, digestive process, etc. are thrown out of balance, but once you stop running, homeostasis is restored. At the negative end of experience, if you experience a great shock, the fight-or-flight response throws you into extreme imbalance, but when the shock ends, balance is restored. Unfortunately, under a constant threat like COVID-19, the shock doesn’t end. The usual stress response is designed to last no more than a few minutes. Extended to days and weeks, it turns on itself and begins to create damage. The damage first appears psychologically. Under constant stress, people feel tired, grumpy, depressed, anxious, irritable, impatient, and so on. Keep up the pressure, and the next stage is fatigue, lethargy, dullness, and depression. If the stress still doesn’t abate, physical symptoms start to develop, often beginning with insomnia as the result of hormonal interactions being thrown out of whack. There is a lot more to say about this, but the bottom line is that a holistic reset is needed. Without noticing it, you have been holistically resetting yourself for your entire life. Homeostasis isn’t just physical; it involves the whole person. The command center for resetting the whole person isn’t found in our cells, not even our brain cells, and it isn’t found in the active mind, which is just the top layer. The command center for holistic resetting is at the source. Be still and know that I am your source. The evidence for this has existed for decades. Meditation affects heart rate, respiration, brain activity, inflammation markers, and stress levels. Medical science studies each of these factors individually, but we shouldn’t miss the forest for the trees. Everything comes back to the same source. Your source is still and silent; you come closest to it in deep, dreamless sleep. But in a crisis, everything doesn’t automatically go back into balance the way your heart rate will return to normal after you quit running. It turns out that there is useful silence and not-so-useful silence. As consciousness starts to move from its silent source, different paths open up, and the paths you have favored become your unique way of turning silence into something else. Nobody handed you a user’s manual, but in broad terms, silent mind takes a path that is either/or. Let me map how these pathways diverge. Fear or love Separation or unity Suffering or bliss Renewal or habit Self-esteem or self–doubt Security or insecurity Comfort or stress Acceptance or resistance Awareness or unconsciousness These choices arise from silence; they have the same source but travel in opposite directions. If a person is fully conscious or awake, the pathways are directed toward the desirable experiences of love, security, bliss, creativity, renewal, and so on. But as things stand, we are all entangled in a web of choices that are mixed. We suffer but also feel bliss; we love but also fear; we feel self-worth but also self-doubt. A crisis throws us into deeper confusion as it entangles us in too many wrong responses. Healing consists of allowing the silence to go in the right pathways. In every spiritual or wisdom tradition, pure consciousness unfolds, if let alone, in the direction of love, creativity, renewal, and evolution. There is no injunction that says, “Be still and let’s see what happens” or “Be still and who knows how that will work out for you? Instead, the mind-body balance we all have relied upon since infancy is directed positively. Health and wholeness are the norm; creativity and renewal are the norm. This is why I believe that the COVID-19 crisis can lead to healing, because without a doubt everyone feels the need for a rest. Follow this need toward your source, and it will be fulfilled. This is a time when the rest brings into play the infinite power of consciousness. All we have to do is align ourselves with that power at the level of silent mind. DEEPAK CHOPRA™ MD, FACP, founder of The Chopra Foundation, a non-profit entity for research on well-being and humanitarianism, and Chopra Global, a modern-day health company at the intersection of science and spirituality, is a world-renowned pioneer in integrative medicine and personal transformation. Chopra is a Clinical Professor of Family Medicine and Public Health at the University of California, San Diego and serves as a senior scientist with Gallup Organization. He is the author of over 89 books translated into over forty-three languages, including numerous New York Times bestsellers. His 90th book and national bestseller, Metahuman: Unleashing Your Infinite Potential (Harmony Books), unlocks the secrets to moving beyond our present limitations to access a field of infinite possibilities. TIME magazine has described Dr. Chopra as “one of the top 100 heroes and icons of the century.”
Ways to a restful night’s sleep
Ways to a restful night’s sleep A restful night’s sleep is a luxury for many. There are loads of sleep-inducing teas, pills and sprays, that I sometimes feel may have a placebo effect if they are natural. Charmaine D’Souza’s mix for sleep works best for me. Try and stay away from sleep medication as much as possible, they are highly addictive. Early dinners at least four hours before bedtime can improve UR sleep quality and avoid indigestion, stomach cramps and bloating. Indigestion causes a lot of sleep disturbances. Flatulence while sleeping can be uncomfortable, embarrassing and can take a toll on UR sex life. Stretching & Relaxing post a hectic day sounds great but difficult to achieve. Do something that doesn’t stimulate UR mind, this includes all digital communication. If talking to people relaxes you then put them on speaker and lock the phone so you don’t see the blue light. Stretch every part of UR body if possible before sleeping. Exercising regularly reduces insomnia, mental stress, releases endorphins and regulates UR body temperature. Make sure you avoid strenuous exercise 2 to 3 hours before bedtime, however a very famous actor told me that he walks for 30 minutes post dinner to help the digestion process. Reduce fluid intake post 6pm. It’s not worth drinking tea, coffee or sugary substances post 6 pm. 80% of UR water consumption for the day must be complete by 6pm. This helps avoiding unnecessary pee breaks in the middle of UR sleep. Keep UR bedroom clean and linen smelling fresh and you will automatically feel relaxed and comfortable. I like to freeze the room, but my partner prefers the fan. Nevertheless, we both love clean smelling linen and make sure we burn camphor and sage in our rooms to remove negativity. Our spaces have to be clean and our bed side tables have to clutter free. It’s a rule.
Heal UR life: How to deal with addiction?
Heal UR life: How to deal with addiction? Addiction is a process that doesn't happen overnight; it is a gradual process. It can be a habit or compulsion to do anything. From shopping endlessly to alcohol to drugs and even domestic violence, it is a dysfunction that looks like a 'reward' often lacking the concern of its dire consequences. In this new episode of Heal UR Life, I would like to explain what addiction is, how we can overcome it, and what the best ways to get rid of it! Addiction or dependency is never a good idea, we should always have a choice and you should never be controlled by what you do. One of the most common addictions that plague youngsters of the nation today is smartphones. However, we are addicted to everything around us! It is the accessibility of things in these times that have made us addicted to certain things. Same is the case with certain foods, coffee, tea or even people for that matter. As the preconceived notions go, we need to widen our spectrum of addiction and look at it in a different way from what we already know. According to data from the Ministry of Social Justice, 26% of alcohol abusers and 25% of cannabis abusers show symptoms of dependency in India. When you are dependent on things and they run out, you begin to panic and realise how dependant U R. For example, tobacco is running out during the lockdown period, people who are addicted to nicotine do not know what to do without smokes. Such a situation is never a good sign. You may ask what dependency is and how you can find out if you too show signs of addiction or dependency! Well, addiction is when people consume or use certain things on an everyday basis. In case of alcohol, a person who is drinking every day is more likely to be addicted. Alcohol, cigarettes or drugs give the abuser a sense of compulsion, or the need to have it, which leads to struggle. Once that habit kicks in, there is no stopping. I like to call it the three Cs of addiction—compulsion, Craving and Loss of Control. Drinking every day and suddenly going cold turkey might not be a sure-shot sign of addiction from a diagnostic point of view. The signs and symptoms have to show for about a year to be called an addiction. Call it an excessive drinking habit or binge drinking, an addict tends to drink despite showing signs of difficulty in social behaviour at work, in a relationship or even when facing financial constraints. Signs of an addict • Unable to stay away from the substance • Lack of self-control • Denial of their problem causing behaviour • Lack of emotional responsibility Drinking pattern is one of the first things that's checked among people. Questions like how many drinks do you take, frequency of drinking, among others describe addiction. The body becomes dependant and gets used to alcohol and with time you need to drink more to get the same effects. Moving on to drugs, the features of addiction remain the same. The three Cs stay the same. The difference with drugs is that immediate consequences start showing right after consumption. For example, cocaine starts showing its effect instantly, but cigarettes take years to show its problems. Marijuana doesn't cause physical dependency like in the case of nicotine or alcohol. It's more psychological with cannabis and the sort of addiction that takes years to realise. The problem with drugs, alcohol and nicotine is that over time, you crave it because of the physical dependency on it. Addiction meter Alcohol – Most toxic substance Cocaine – Psychotic behaviour Smoking – Most addictive chemical Sleeping pills/tranquiliser – Develop tolerance, highly dependant With the lockdown in place, withdrawal symptoms start showing up due to the lack of supply. This is when a feeling of anxiousness and irritability will kick in. Insomnia and anxiety will show up as well. Restlessness and shakings in significant cases are very apparent. In severe cases, an addict can also get fits, get confused, develop psychosis and can go into a coma as well. As far as dealing with addicts is concerned, severe patients need to be taken into a hospital emergency instantly. Family & loved ones face the most trauma in such situations. I suggest that the family or an individual should grab this opportunity of the lockdown to seek professional help if the addiction is too strong. Medicines like tranquilisers work on people who have mild withdrawal symptoms. However, those with severe withdrawal symptoms require detoxification medicine as a substitute. These medicines are available strictly on a prescription basis. Online consultation is one way to get a prescription for these medications if you are feeling severe withdrawal symptoms. The alcohol withdrawal symptoms can show up within 48 to 72 hours, and medical help is necessary as it can be dangerous. Nicotine, on the other hand, can take a week or two to show withdrawal symptoms. However, a healthy diet and increasing exercise can help you come out of the addiction. Don't panic, seek medical help and let the medical professional figure out UR category of addiction to suggest appropriate treatment options. There is nothing wrong with seeking medical assistance. Will power is required to stay off something, but first, seek medical help to deal with addiction or substance abuse. When I meet an addict, it is always about asking the right kind of questions and open-ended questions that are comforting. Qualified practitioners never demean their patients, in fact, act as a solid support system. Questions like "Tell me about UR drinking habits?" "Do you think you drink more than you should?" "Has drinking gone up with time?" are the right way to get answers. It is these kinds of questions that people open up to and finally acknowledge their problems. When they are ready for reform, a gentle nudge from loved ones helps them come out of addiction. If you have any questions regarding addiction, please email me at email@example.com.
Ways to consume knowledge post-college
Ways to consume knowledge post-college Learning doesn't have to stop after college. The urge to keep learning should last a lifetime. To adapt to changing times keeping yourself up to date is essential. Attend interactive workshops. Quirky workshops help you learn practically and logically and make learning more appealing. Make a list of things you didn’t have the opportunity to learn for whatsoever reason and find a way to start. Simple things like drawing, designing, swimming or even getting involved in communities can give you a sense of fulfilment. Try globetrotting. Post-COVID people are going to globe-trot more carefully. Make a bucket list of places where you want to go based on priority. Do research, study their culture & traditions, do extensive homework before you book UR tickets. This way you will know what’s in store for you. I love to be spontaneous but in a calculated manner. It’s not worth risking something precious for an adrenalin rush. Get the real tee via educational apps or online classes. I overheard a friend saying that he does one Master Class every week. I love apps that summarize books and have an audio read version. I prefer listening to Podcasts than songs when I commute to work, it gives me a different perspective on life. They are easy to access, pocket-friendly or sometimes free and provide you with the latest cutting - edge practices that also improve UR skill sets. Attend a human library event. Have you ever attended a human library? I haven’t, my team told me how cool they are, I looked it up and I’m all set to attend a session with an open mind. Apparently, these events are uber-cool and allow you to interact with intellects from diverse backgrounds. Attending one can also change UR perspective on the new ways of absorbing knowledge. Party or Network Sounds weird, but sometimes Parties can be educational too. Depending on the crowd you can plan conversation topics in advance. Trust me it’s a done thing. A lot of times I have heard that UR Network is UR Net worth, I believe this only cos of the knowledge you gain with people’s experience. Alternately keep in touch with UR old colleagues or college mates to see what’s happening in their industry. The more you seek the more you reap.
Imagining The Subtle Body
What is the subtle body? And why should we imagine it during yogasanas? It is the body which is subtler than the physical one! The human system is very complex and beautifully done. It is incredibly fragile and at the same time, phenomenally resilient. This life is so fragile: Inhalation, exhalation, inhalation, Imagining The Subtle Body: From The Surface To The Core exhalation - If the next inhalation does not happen, you're gone! Between life and death, there is just half a breath, not even a full breath! But even though life is so fragile, it still has resilience. Human beings can do unbelievable things because the body is structured on many different levels. If it was just physical, if you just held somebody’s nose in their sleep, they should be gone. But that is not how it is. It is in layers. Even if the physical loses its ability to live, if the other dimensions are still alive, the physical could be revived. It happens to you every day: When you sleep, one part of you is actually dead – your personality, your thought, and your ideas of what you are – but because the other parts are still awake, everything comes awake once again. Enhancing Perception Whether you practice a simple asana or any other dimension of yoga, essentially, the only goal is to improve your perception, because only what you perceive you know – the rest is just imagination. Generally, instead of enhancing knowledge, people have unfortunately been given teachings. Teachings will only lead to unbridled creativity, which is a sure way of graduating into an asylum. If your imagination loses control, if it is not rooted in reality, you are moving towards insanity. On the spiritual path, if you take in teachings which are not necessary for you, very quickly, you will move towards insanity. The danger is always there. If your feet are still firmly on the ground and then you imagine something, it is okay. But if your imagination can take you off the ground, then you have no control over the situation. Memory And Imagination Asanas and other yogic practices are mainly designed only to enhance your perception and not to send you on a flight of imagination. As your understanding is enhanced, then you know life, you are not thinking about life. Right now, this question has arisen because there is no experience of the subtle body, but somebody is telling you ‘please see it,’ -imagination. Yes, we are asking you to imagine this because the distinction between what is real and what is vision is not significant. It is a very thin line. The actual process is anyway happening. If you assist it with the right kind of action and awareness, the real thing will come into the picture. Today, it is an established fact in neuroscience that unless you have some memory and imagination, your visual apparatus will not function. You always believed that your eye is a camera – no. Without the computer behind, it cannot work. We are doing what is called natural eye care methods at Isha Rejuvenation, where we use memory and imagination to see better; you can distinctly see if you build memory about something; within a minute, you can see things better. Conclusion Even now, you are unable to see many things about which there is no memory. So we are just trying to build some memory, and you cannot make memory without imagination. You always thought you could not imagine unless there is a memory. No, you cannot build memory unless there is imagination. Without imagination, consciousness is not possible. We are asking you to imagine the subtle body. Just make it like yourself; do not make it too beautiful. Do not let your imagination run wild. Just a little bit is okay because if you build this, the memory will play. Once the mind plays, you will begin to see. But do not see it walking all over the place – only when you are doing the asanas. Those of you who start seeing subtle bodies all over the place, such people should eat only subtle food! Ranked amongst the fifty most influential people in India, Sadhguru is a yogi, mystic, visionary and a New York Times bestselling author. Sadhguru has been conferred the Padma Vibhushan by the Government of India in 2017, the highest annual civilian award, accorded for exceptional and distinguished service.
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5 Ways To Calm UR Mind During Stressful Times
Life throws chaos at us on a regular basis—from finances to our relationships and health. The latest chaos that has gripped the world is the novel coronavirus. The world has been dealing with the COVID-19 for almost five months now and there has been no end to it. While many of us have been working from home to meet the targets; stress kicks in many ways to push us back. In response to that, we try to survive on our adrenaline. Overworking, drinking another cup of coffee; we respond to the emails and get the work done. We think that if we stay up and work, we get things done. But all it does is that it burns us out, drain our productivity, and lead to exhaustion. Coping with stress To relieve stress, it is important to come up with a strategy to relax your mind and body. Here are the five quick and easy ways to regain calmness so that you can deal with different situations. 1. Take a Walk Exercise can be a great stress reliever. Exercising releases the feel-good hormone called endorphins. Walking brings the stress levels down and also helps you gain short-term and long term benefits like increase fitness of heart, stronger bones and improved balance. Walking will also help you get off work and return to it in a new frame of mind which is optimistic and determined. 2. Take a Breath Breathing exercises are a great way to instant calm URself. More oxygen into UR body means that you will feel a calm state. It also releases the physical tension that’s gripping you. And the fun part about this exercise is that you can do them anytime or anywhere. 3. Take a Mental Break If you want to restore UR peace of mind, then visualizations and guided imagery are a wonderful way to do it. Just close UR eyes and imagine scenery or a place that calms you down. It can help you in relaxing both physically and mentally. With practice, you will be able to access your "happy place" and quickly feel relaxed when stressed. 4. Reframe Your Situation We tend to maximise our stress just by the way we perceive them. One way to deal with situations and the arising stress out of them is to look at them differently. Put a different perspective to it and see how it changes UR situation. Pessimism and other self-sabotaging thought patterns are meant to cause stress and problem, but if you change the way you look at problems, it'll come in handy when you're stressed. 5. Try Progressive Muscle Relaxation Progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) is a technique in which you tense and release all of UR muscle groups, leaving your body more relaxed in the process. PMR is a great technique that can be practised by anyone. With continuous practice and use, you can fully release the tensions that are gripping you in a matter of seconds.
Check to see if UR in a toxic relationship
No relationship is picture-perfect, there are many elements which cause distance, disrespect and abuse even in a loving relationship. Here are five signs that tell you if UR in a toxic relationship. A lot of people feel embarrassed to get marriage counselling. It's absolutely fine! Try to work things out as much as you can. Set UR priorities, take drastic decisions keeping yourself and UR loved ones in mind. Happiness is a state of mind that only U R responsible for This can cause bitterness and constant belittling can cause mental trauma. This can happen without realizing. Belittlement stems from insecurity. If you or UR partner is insecure, it's time to address the issue. Any kind of abuse is a clear indicator that shows UR partner you are unhappy or mentally troubled, which causes them to lash out. In many cases, people regret lashing out mentally & physically. If it happens rarely then forgive, if it occurs regularly seek external help immediately. This can be of different kinds, it can be emotional or physical. One can’t blame anyone for cheating. It depends on the circumstance if the partner is regretful & willing to change its worth forgiving. If the partner tries to cover it up, it leads to trust issues. It’s all about how you feel, UR values and the situation UR in. A relationship should make you feel safe and secure more than happy. So choose wisely. No respect or trust can make any relationship stagnant just like a broken-down car. Respect in a relationship is like peanut butter and jelly; they taste amazing when they are together in a sandwich. Respect stems from UR upbringing and personality. If you were brought up in an atmosphere that didn’t respect women, you can carry the same to UR relationship. Little or no communication causes never-ending conflicts and misunderstandings. Communicating helps you and UR partner understand each other's genuine emotions. Set an exclusive date night once a month to discuss each other’s issues and problems. Feel free to do this exercise more often if required. The golden rule of this exercise is to solve issues and not repeat them again. Having said that habits take a while to change, give people time and understand their perspectives before accusing.
How To Settle The Mind During A Crisis
At first only a few voices spoke of positive change after the COVID crisis ends, or at least becomes livable once again. Now one hears a chorus calling for change, much of it from younger people. The main message is about global cooperation and preparing better for the next pandemic. But I think people are pondering personal change, too. In the midst of widespread trepidation, what are the new goals that each of us might start pursuing right now? The first goal should be a settled mind. Fear is persuasive and panic easily goes viral. At the best of times most people turn their backs on worrisome problems rather than dealing with them directly. But unless you have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, you can settle your mind and go beyond fear. The first steps to gaining mastery over fear are open to everyone, as follows. • Sit down and candidly talk about your level of anxiety. Assemble the adults in your family, and perhaps older teenagers. Discuss your feelings in the context of getting past them. • Don’t dwell on anxious thoughts. When one arises, say to yourself, “This isn’t helping. Go away, I don’t need you.” Talking back to the voice in your head is actually effective. • Plan rationally for the situation you find yourself in. Problems can be divided into three categories: things you can fix, things you have to put up with, and things you should walk away from. Take each individual issue that faces you, and write down which category it falls into. Most people aggravate their worries through indecision. They vacillate between trying to fix something, putting up with it, and fantasizing about running away from it. Be clear in your reasoning; pick one strategy from the three, then stick to it. • Empathize with other people’s anxiety, but don’t make it a daily habit. Be helpful and reassuring. If this doesn’t work, you should tune out the most anxious complaints and focus on anything positive that emerges. • Be creative with your free time. Idle minds are fear’s playground. • Don’t obsess over the news. Limit your viewing time to short periods two or three times a day. This is a crisis unfolding in slow motion. You don’t have to keep up with it minute by minute. • Seek consoling and uplifting things to read and listen to. • Devote some time several times a day to sit quietly, close your eyes, and use deep, regular breathing to reach a settled state inside. If you are patient enough to practice regular meditation, do that. • Write down a vision of your future as you would like to live it after the crisis passes. Detail all the things you want to achieve and experience. • Foster hope in your immediate circle, but don’t make it up if you don’t actually feel hopeful. • Take time every day to do something that makes you smile and laugh. As you can see, none of these things are mysterious. They are available to everyone, and if you seriously undertake it, the project of defeating fear is more than doable. At a more inward level, you can also confront the misleading ideas that anxiety fosters, replacing them with positive ideas any time they recur. First, the false ideas that are typically born of fear: • If I worry, it shows I care. • I have to worry because others around me don’t seem to. • By worrying I am fending off the worst things that might happen. • Sometimes the things I worry about come true, which justifies all the times they do not come true. • Worrying doesn't hurt anybody, so why not worry? • The world is hard and life is difficult. It is only healthy to worry. • I know my worries make me feel bad, but that's the price I am willing to pay. • A lot of people worry, so I am not alone. At the very least I get a lot of reinforcement on the news and in social media. • If I worry now, it's a kind of insurance that will help me not be hurt in the future when bad stuff happens. • Worry shows my family that I love them. • If my anxiety touches others, they will want to help and take care of me without me having to ask. Habitual worriers will recognize these familiar thoughts, and all of us entertain some of them in anxious times. But each thought is the product of fear. Clear, positive thoughts should be put in place of them, as follows: • Despite my worries, I am safe and cared for. • Any problem is best dealt with when it actually occurs. • Planning for a bad eventuality should be done once, take very little time, and then left alone. • If you have coped in the past, you can trust yourself to cope now and tomorrow. • Worrying is pointless as a way to solve anything. It blocks the part of the mind that actually solves problems. • If you feel bad from anxiety, your hurt is self-inflicted, and getting out of the hurt involves taking responsibility for your own reactions. • The people around you do not like you better because you worry about them. They find it a nuisance but do not want to oppose you, so they adapt and put up with it. • Worrying drives others away. • Worrying blocks a healthy sense of self because it is basically an expression of insecurity. • Anxiety doesn't protect you from future hurt. It actually brings hurt into the here and now. • You are not your fears, but if you accept that you are, personal growth is blocked. You might even find it helpful to take these two lists and discuss each item with people close to you. The project of overcoming fear knows no specific time and place. In normal times we should be gaining control over fear to the extent we can. Now, however, the need to settle the mind is more urgent than ever. DEEPAK CHOPRA™ MD, FACP, founder of The Chopra Foundation, a non-profit entity for research on well-being and humanitarianism, and Chopra Global, a modern-day health company at the intersection of science and spirituality, is a world-renowned pioneer in integrative medicine and personal transformation. Chopra is a Clinical Professor of Family Medicine and Public Health at the University of California, San Diego and serves as a senior scientist with Gallup Organization. He is the author of over 89 books translated into over forty-three languages, including numerous New York Times bestsellers. His 90th book, Metahuman: Unleashing Your Infinite Potential, unlocks the secrets to moving beyond our present limitations to access a field of infinite possibilities. TIME magazine has described Dr. Chopra as “one of the top 100 heroes and icons of the century.”
5 Fab Father’s Day Gift Ideas
The boundless energy and the unconditional love father’s exhibit, compel every child to follow their footsteps in the hope of learning something new each time. While fathers seem like dominating characters at home, the fact is they are softest at heart. Their patience and perseverance make every little thing possible for the happiness of their children and their family. It’s sometimes perplexing and challenging to understand from where this energy and optimism comes from. We all can agree that this relation can’t be appreciated in one day. But, we can take time out to show our father what he really means to us. So, don’t fret. We’ve made the perfect father’s day gift guide for you this Father’s Day! Grooming Gift Set A set of essential skincare products like face wash, scrub, trimmer and hair serum is a perfect way to pamper UR dad. Social media is full of ideas on the perfect ensemble of products and how to use them. Before purchasing any products do consult UR family doctor. Fitness tracker It is fit for a father who is considerate of his health. UR dad can enjoy his workout sessions without breaking a sweat over the cost. In simple terms, this is a gift of health to UR dad, who works tirelessly, day-in and out. A Dose Of Nostalgia Revive his most cherished moments of the past. A collage of vintage photos of his childhood or arranging a conference call with friends should do the trick. Think of any such activities that you know for sure will make him smile. The old school way Build a fort, make a personalised family tree or play some self-invented games with UR father. Take him down the memory lane of his childhood and how he used to have fun without many screens around. Gift vouchers They are an ideal present to gift UR dad. If he really likes a particular store or brand. This way, no one has to bear a loss or compromise, he can utilise the gift card whenever he wants to And purchase an item of his liking.
Know Your Limits: Wake Up To The Reality Of Drinking Sensibly!
We hate restrictions and regulations. Consequently, we are driven either consciously or unconsciously to override them. We like to lose control, but are inherently programmed to retain it! Alcohol is perceived as a substance that lets you be – something that gives you the deceptive confidence to shed your inhibitions and even bring out UR true self! You may have come across someone who drinks like a fish and is yet able to stand tall amongst the less tolerant intoxicated. Here is an alcoholic in the making. Excess intake of alcohol opens a Pandora’s Box of health and social problems. As said by Paracelsus, the father of Toxicology, ‘the dose makes the poison!’ Officially, Indians are amongst the world’s lowest consumers of alcohol, but we seem to have a way around it. How? Over half the drinkers fall in the hazardous drinking category! Further, about 15-20 per cent of this lot go on to become addicts or develop dependency syndrome. So whether you are a responsible social drinker or an addict, you definitely won’t get ‘high’ knowing that alcohol is one of the most toxic substances known to man! Unfortunately, it’s readily and legally available worldwide. As we are currently spoilt for choice, it becomes impossible to know how much is too much! This applies to everything we do, be it the food we eat, the money we seek, and importantly that drink we indulge in. Why We Need To Worry About Drinking Studies suggest that alcohol is connected to more than 60 types of diseases and injuries. For instance, alcohol is a risk factor for oesophageal cancer, liver cancer, and cirrhosis of the liver, stroke, and psychiatric illnesses including suicide, motor vehicle accidents and homicide. There has been an upward surge in patterns and trends of alcohol use in India. People are now drinking at a younger age and in the past two decades; the average age of initiation of alcohol intake has fallen from 19 to 13! The signature pattern of alcohol consumption is frequent and heavy drinking, with more than 90 per cent of alcohol consumption being in the form of hard liquor or distilled spirits. Alarmingly, only 40 per cent of these are branded. The Blame Game! According to the government, powerful international and domestic alcohol lobbies are targeting our young. There are multinationals at work trying to harvest the potential in India’s vast unexploited market for investment in production and distribution of alcohol and alcoholic products. The film industry glorifies drinking: Good guys, drink and good times are associated with intoxication! Limiting individual alcohol intake and drinking sociably and sensibly is the first step towards responsible drinking. In recognition of the global health issues with alcoholism, the World Health Organization (WHO) kicked in 2012 by sounding out national governments on setting a global target for reducing per capita consumption of alcohol. But the move seems to have hit a roadblock for in April, the WHO dropped it, citing poor support from member states! But why wait until countries and states decide on strategies for reducing alcohol consumption? Limiting individual alcohol intake and drinking sociably and sensibly is the first step towards responsible drinking. For this, drinks need to be quantified, and the guidelines for alcohol intake need to be understood. Count Your Drinks The health authorities in the UK worked on guidelines for alcohol consumption far back in 1981. They very aptly titled it, ‘Drinking Sensibly’ which contained the detailed definition of alcohol misuse and the introduction to the concept of sensible drinking. Three years later, it was followed with guidelines on individual drinking. The latter too was aptly titled, ‘That’s the Limit!’ which outlined ‘safe limits’ for drinking. Their follow-up reports in 1995 formed the basis for quantifying alcohol volume in units and individual drinking guidelines (21 units a week for men and 14 for women). A couple of years later, these guidelines were changed from weekly limits to daily limits. Here are a few points from the new guidelines: Men: 3-4 units a day or less Women: 2-3 units a day or less After an episode of heavy drinking, refrain from drinking for 48 hours to allow the body tissues to recover Units are a fundamental concept used in guidelines on alcohol consumption. Approximately, one unit equals to a 25 ml measure of spirits like whisky, or half a pint of ordinary strength (4 per cent) beer, 100 ml of 10 per cent wine. Therefore, a ‘large’ peg of whisky has two units; a can of regular beer has about 1.5 units; and 175 ml glass of wine contains two units. Awareness about alcohol consumption and associated health hazards, as well as sensible drinking limits, may help to contain and reduce the intake. Also, what we urgently require is education and awareness programmes on the perils of alcoholism and hazardous drinking.
Heal UR Life: How Alternate Therapy Helps U Heal
Heal UR Life: How alternate therapy helps u heal In these times, when the world is at siege due to the coronavirus pandemic, we are looking for different ways to relieve stress and working towards a better life. Alternative therapy is one such method to do it. We’re going to discuss stress, how to deal with it and the different ways to curb this menace. While on the subject, I would also like to talk about the various therapies to build relationships and boost the immune system, all in the comfort of UR home… Losing weight is one subject that always catches our attention, especially during this quarantine period. We all fear to gain extra kilos and not looking our best before we return to work. However, that’s where we go wrong, as ‘losing’ as a term brings negative connotation with it. On the contrary, I like to call it “managing weight”. It gives you much more control over what you want to do with UR body. Visualisation is a great way to proceed with managing UR weight. What comes first as an alternative therapy of healing is hypnosis. It’s not just about visiting a hypnotherapist or going into a trance. People are in and out of hypnosis every day in their lives without even realising it. Patterns and habits define hypnosis in daily life. For example, if you’ve learnt driving once, you are now habituated to it. UR conscious when U R driving, but you can do multiple things during that time as well. It becomes your habit with time which is a state of hypnosis. Weight management is emotional. You must’ve heard about emotional eating. But what is it? It is when we eat when we are emotional, overwhelmed or sad. A diet is not going to solve the issue of managing weight because it is connected to your mind and emotions. To manage weight, it’s essential to look at food differently, change a few beliefs and understand what food means to you. Have clarity on what you want to achieve. Hypnosis works in different ways, and it doesn’t always mean to close your eyes to get into a hypnotic state. One of the greatest hypnotherapists, Milton Ericson, never got his clients to close their eyes. He just talked and healed by getting people to talk about different perspectives. To add to that, hypnotherapy can help you learn to cope with conflict and manage difficult emotions more easily. It can help you build confidence and ask for what you need and deserve, something which is very important in relationships. Communication is vital, and hypnotherapy may be able to help you with this aspect too. During this lockdown, reports have come that the divorce cases in China have gone up drastically, and I’m not surprised. Humans are not wired to be with each other for long. Sure we love relationships, but we are also wired for our own time. We love to go to work or meet friends. However, in this lockdown, living in close proximity to our loved ones might cause distress. My advice would be to find some ‘me’ time for yourself. Take an hour every day to spend that time with no one but yourself. The problems in relationships arise when there is lack of communication. Almost every issue is down to the lack of conversation between partners. What we do in a relationship is that we assume we know everything about the other person and they know us. But that’s not the case. In my opinion, the longer you are together, the more you should communicate. Another method of alternative healing is havening, a kind of sensory therapy. When clients come to me, I take their words as symptoms of an underlying problem. As a therapist, I dig deep into their history and find the root of the problem with a technique called meta-modelling. It’s not painful or tiresome like other techniques. I talk to my clients and figure out the root of the problem, which could be childhood issues, family issues, school, bullying, peer pressure and other problems that can be the reason for their current pain. The present pain, if not dealt with, will have a massive impact on an individual’s relationship, health, wellbeing and productivity. The most crucial relationship that you have is with yourself! Havening is a method that helps me de-link and decode the childhood traumas of my clients, and that can help you too. It is a psycho-sensory technique which involves three pillars of healing, namely; psychology, psychopharmacology and the mind-body connection. As a practitioner, I heal my patients by connecting their mind and body. I work by attaching their mind and body by using sensory touches. It works by touching the face, shoulders to elbows and the hands. Let’s say UR very stressed, so you can use the affirmational havening to destress. People have different techniques when they are stressed. While some rub their temples, others put their hands on their head. Some even pull their knuckles to self-soothe. The self-havening technique to destress It’s an extremely effective method to destress, where you have to touch yourself with both hands crossed on your shoulder and bring them from shoulders to the wrist and talk positive things to yourself. Just say “I chose to feel healthy” or “I chose to focus on something” as you do the moves. Do it 5 to 10 minutes in a day to see the benefits. Focus on what you want and do this self-havening exercise. Things to do to forget the trauma during the lockdown • Self-havening • Yoga • Meditation • Listening to meditative podcasts • Singing/Chanting • Have probiotics • Walking in sunlight (if possible) • The vagus nerve technique – For this, sit straight on a chair, with your feet firmly on the ground. Now take three deep breaths. When you inhale, do it with the word calm, and when you exhale through your mouth, do it with the word stress. To get in touch with me, you can follow my Instagram page @micheleparadiseofficial, or go to my website www.changeyourmindforgood.com. You can also go to my YouTube channel @micheleparadise for havening videos.