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R U Socialigent? Find Out Here!

Dr Sandeep Atre

- Psychologist and Founder Of Socialigence

3 min read


As humans, we are ‘social animals’ and the basis of our social being is ‘interpersonal communication.’ One look at our evolution and it becomes clear that we are wired to connect, because there is no other way we would have survived all that we did. But are we connecting anymore? Look around and U would find that if not destroyed, the very basis of our social being is surely under serious threat.

At homes, fathers are busy staring at their phones, mothers are busy watching television and children are busy with their videogames and iPods.

Similarly, at workplaces, bosses are busy looking at laptops and employees are engaged on some social networking sites. Even the education industry has not remained unaffected. Teachers are looking at power point presentations rather than at students and the latter are choosing online videos to learn.

The business scenario has customers opting for e-commerce websites over a real shopping experience and customer care executives are busy checking out customer records in CRM software, rather than communicating with the persons standing in front of them. Yes, we are all looking less at people, listening to them less, being less mentally present in conversations and are paying lesser attention to their reactions.

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Poke, Ping And Post

Those speaking silences and subtle interactions of the past are today struggling in the impulsive hands of ‘poke, ping and post.’ With a decreasing attention span and declining face-to-face contact, people are finding it hard to relate to each other, connect with each other and hold on to relationships and this is what makes social intelligence such an important virtue to develop.


Social Intelligence is defined as ‘observing nonverbal behaviour and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management


Connecting Better With Social Intelligence

Social Intelligence is defined as ‘observing nonverbal behaviour and understanding emotions for greater interpersonal effectiveness and self-management.’ Thus, it is a skill backed by conceptual depth. It helps U observe a person’s gestures, postures and expressions in the light of the emotional counterparts.

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Now, U may ask, ‘why do we need to understand emotions?’ The answer is simple, yet profound – the innate need to connect with another individual on a deeper level. Also, it all boils down to ‘willingness to observe’ even before the ‘ability’ to do so. And once developed, this skill would go a long way.

If we develop or renew our interest to pay attention to people and to what they are conveying without saying it, then this simple change has the potential to enrich our lives, as social beings to a great extent. And if that happens, then there are subsequent positive changes assured in all walks of UR life.

5 Simple Tips to Improve UR Social Intelligence
  1. Be observant of UR surroundings.
  2. Try to empathize with others and connect on an emotional level.
  3. See through the cultural differences. Understand that their perspective is a result of their upbringing.
  4. Interrupt less and listen more.
  5. Build meaningful relationships arounds U.