Most people wish for a problem-free life. However, such a life, if it were ever possible, would be dull and boring. As humans, we are shaped by experiences, both positive and not-so-positive. Challenging circumstances push people to expand their limits and bring more richness and beauty to the human experience. If one doesn’t have any problem, the person is likely to end up becoming a problem for others! It is better to have a problem than to be a problem! A situation becomes a problem when we perceive a gap between an actual and an ideal state of it. Not everything that looks like a problem is a problem. You could either get stuck in a problematic situation or take it as an opportunity to learn and grow in life.
Accept & Act
Whenever a problem arises, the general tendency of the mind is to either go into a denial mode or get consumed by it. A problem is not going to disappear by denying it nor will it get solved by brooding over it. The first step to practical problem-solving is accepting that the problem that has arised. This recognition enables one to focus on the solution. With the acceptance of the problem comes the ability to respond with calmness. Conversely, the inability to accept triggers agitation in mind, prompting wrong actions that worsen the situation.
Shift UR Focus
Often, people waste too much time trying to find out the “what” and “why” of the problem. This habit of excessive post-mortem is not only energy-consuming but also makes the problem look bigger than it actually is. Rather than seeing the problem as it is, one gets overwhelmed in its exaggerated appearance. The wise way is to spend less time and energy on “what” and “why” and focus on “how” to solve the problem.
You can’t control how other people feel, you can’t control the weather, and you can’t force your spouse to change. The moment you accept the situation as it is, it is no longer a problem. Learning to accommodate opposites with patience is a valuable skill in life.
A New Vision In New Light
With the right approach and attitude, problems no longer remain problems and solutions start presenting themselves. Problems are an inevitable part of life, and your ability to solve them with grace will always be a prized trait in all the roles you play, especially those of leadership. The wise have a different way of looking at problems.
Here are five ways of looking at a problem with a calm mind.
Everything Is Changing
The realisation that everything is changing will save you from getting overpowered by problems. Just observe, your body is constantly evolving; so are your feelings, thoughts, opinions, likes, dislikes and attitude. So are your problems. Know that you are not going to be stuck with a problem for all of your life. Many issues have come and gone in your life. Remind yourself, “this too shall pass”. This intelligence to recognise the changing nature of the creation is a sign of maturity.
Some Things Are Inevitable, So What?
The other way of looking at a problem is accepting that certain things aren’t going to change. If you expect the weather to become cold during summer, it’s bound to create problems. There are many things in life you have zero control over. You can’t control how other people feel, you can’t control the weather, and you can’t force your spouse to change. The moment you accept the situation as it is, it is no longer a problem. Learning to accommodate opposites with patience is a valuable skill in life.