The second ingredient in this wonderful coupling is shared vulnerability. It is so important that we can take off our mask around our partner and show them who we really are. We can show them our weaknesses, fears, worries, anxieties and be honest with them and they can do the same with us. If we don’t have this with our partner, it will be exhausting to walk around with our mask on for years and live in fear that one day it might slip off and they see who we really are and reject and abandon us.

The final ingredient to this increasingly beautiful coupling is understanding. What does this look like? A person who is interested in us and wants to make sense of our mind, even when it goes into that crazy place that it sometimes does. A person that wants to understand our perspective of the world, even if they don’t agree with it and we want to do all of these things for them too.

Being and doing everything together is not a true sign of love. Love is the trust and knowledge that when you are together, you both show up with kindness, vulnerability and understanding, which creates a deep bond between the two of you that cannot be shaken. Looks, money and success will fade but if your partner has these 3 ingredients and you do too, you will feel loved and supported and able to face any issues together. For more information please visit my website www.micheleparadise.com and try my relationship quiz.