When we have issues or negative thoughts, they are dependent on landscapes and removing negative emotional parts of a traumatic event changes the landscape of the brain. This leaves a void, which is a good thing. We like to have voids so that we can fill them with positive thoughts and emotions. We can remove the negative and use the positives to fill the gap. It is with this thought that I am going to show you this therapy technique, called affirmational havening.
It is a really wonderful and easy technique that works wonders on stress management. In this method, you can either go to an expert or can do it yourself. During this exercise, you need to think of a positive resource from the past instead of a traumatic event from the past. You can say “I’m confident.” “I’m happy” or I’m resilient” while doing it.
What it does is, it takes those empty spaces in your brain and fills them up with positive things, and things that you may need in the future to get through with the difficulties in life.
When you think of the past situations where you might have melted down, doing self-havening now, and saying the words that represent positivity, you will get stronger and more confident of achieving to get what you want in the future.
I do this personally every day in the morning. It’s a great way to start your day. You can do this in the shower while bathing. Just say the words I’m and find a positive word.
How to do self-havening
It’s an extremely effective method to destress, where you have to touch yourself with both hands crossed on your shoulder and bring them from shoulders to the wrist and talk positive things to yourself. Just say “I chose to feel healthy” or “I chose to focus on something” as you do the moves. Do it 5 to 10 minutes in a day to see the benefits. Focusing on what you want and do this self-havening exercise.