Here’s the truth – real families are not perfect. They are real because they are imperfect!
The festive season is fun and exciting, with loved ones cooking scrumptious traditional delicacies that are made specially during this time. Then there are new clothes, cleaning and sprucing the house, festive lights, flowers and personalized decor! The pleasant weather after Diwali, nearing Thanksgiving, Christmas, New year and Sankranti, makes this time of the year feel even more celebratory. The oppressive summer heat and unending rains are gone. The nip in the air and the cool breeze makes this time of the year even more enjoyable with the countless family gatherings and get-togethers you may have to attend.
The drop in temperature also makes it bearable to wear heavy silks and fancy clothes. All these add to the happiness of creating sweet memories and memorable experiences. Another reason we all look forward to this season is that we get a break from work and from our mundane routine. We also get the opportunity to visit and meet with family and close friends. But this is a lot of work too when you don’t know how to steer the conversation the right way!
Spending time with extended family can bring both joy and stress. Arguments can arise quite quickly. Parents and grandparents may have many expectations. The media and advertisements show us perfect smiling families in the ideal surroundings that can lead to high expectations and we feel pressurized to live up to these images.
In most families, only a few people end up doing most of the work. Thus, they end up feeling tired and exhausted, resentful and snappy. This is not fair. But working together can make life easier for everyone. Roles can be assigned, and responsibilities can be divided. Here’s the truth – real families are not perfect. They are real because they are imperfect! Not all family members get on well together. Animated conversations can soon become heated and lead to the opening of old wounds and unresolved issues.
More people also result in more mess and more work. Getting together a real family for a group photograph can also be a challenge. However, some planning and organizing ahead always works. You can plan activities that revolve around an event. This gives everyone a direction. It could be a walk in the park or a trek for the more able-bodied. Yoga can work well too. It could be a group sing and dance, or even a flash mob if your family is large enough.
In most families, only a few people end up doing most of the work. Thus, they end up feeling tired and exhausted, resentful and snappy. This is not fair as working together can make life easier for everyone. Roles can be assigned, and responsibilities divided. While the women cook lunch, the men can arrange dinner. A few more things U can keep in mind is what conversation you should altogether avoid at the dinner table, give our article on Ice breakers at the dinner table a quick read to know how U can kickstart conversations the right way!